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Second Trimester Survival Guide

Every single woman is different.  Also, every pregnancy can be different but I wanted to share my second trimester survival items in case they might help anyone else trying to get through the second trimester of pregnancy.

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Second Trimester Survival Kit

  • Body Pillow


    I am a stomach sleeper.  It is very difficult for me to sleep in any position besides completely on my stomach but a pregnancy pillow makes all the difference.  This pillow keeps me from turning onto my front and I love having the support between my knees to help keep my hips parallel.  The pillow is so comfy my husband and dog have tried to steal it multiple times.

  • Snacks

For me, the nausea completely subsides by second trimester unless I don’t eat “on time”.  Once I get overly hungry the nausea comes back full blast so I keep a purse full of snacks on me at all times.  My on-the-go snacks include fruit snacks and granola bars.

  • Water Bottle

    You need a lot more water during pregnancy and I am terrible about drinking enough water.  IWater bottle have found that if I keep a water bottle near me I am much more likely to drink water.  I prefer the water bottles with straws so I don’t have any accidents of spilling water all over my self.

  • Nursing Bras

    Your breasts are going to get much bigger during pregnancy.  If you have to buy new bras anyway why wouldn’t you just buy nursing bras?

  • Bellaband

    I don’t like spending money on a ton of maternity clothing that I will only wear for a few months so during your second trimester the BellaBand can help you stay in your normal clothes longer.   Tip: I wear mine upside down. I think this helps the band from rolling up or down.

    BellaBand

  • Maternity Leggings

    Maternity leggings are a lifesaver, especially during a winter pregnancy.  I probably wear my leggings multiple times a week to work because maternity nylons are not that awesome.

  • Date Nights

    Go on date nights now because in a few months you will not want to go out at all.  During third trimester you might be exhausted and achy, or in my case only fit into one pair of your shoes.  Enjoy your free nights now while you still feel great.

  • Babymoon

    If you have the time and can afford to do so go on a trip with your partner!  It doesn’t have to be anywhere fancy but take a trip before the baby comes because it might be some time until you have this kind of flexibility again.

  • Face Wipes

    I never have acne despite the fact that I never wash my face, unless I’m pregnant.  At the very beginning of second trimester I always seem to get acne everywhere.  Since I still am not a fan of washing my face, my compromise is to take off my makeup with Neutrogena Makeup Remover Cleansing Towelettes.  The cloths are also great to travel with.

    (Originally published October 7th, 2016)

Here We Go Again

I’m pregnant . . . and terrified.

Terrified the baby will die again.

Terrified every time I use the restroom I will see blood.

Terrified to have hope.

I am truly grateful that it was so easy for me to get pregnant again.  I absolutely do not take fertility for granted.  I know each month a couple tries to conceives and “fails” only adds stress and heartache to the situation.  All I can say is after all we went through last year maybe we do deserve to have this part of pregnancy go smoothly.  We have a long, stressful road ahead of us.  If this baby has the same birth defect as Haley did we will not know until around week 23, well into second trimester.  There is no test we can do.

Now it is just a waiting game.  Wish us luck, we’ll take all the prayers we can get.

(Originally published July 17th, 2016)

Observations & Realizations

This year has been a difficult one.  Starting next year (this Friday), I want to try to focus on being happy despite losing our daughter so recently.  But before I try to find my happy I need to get out a few observations and realizations I have made over the past month.

Goodbye My Sweet Girl, Goodbye

Despite all the fake-outs, we actually did make it to our scheduled delivery date.  On Thursday, December 3rd we started the day by having a last growth ultrasound to let the medical team know what to expect.  I wasn’t sure how I was going to act or how I was going to feel the day of delivery knowing that the outcome would most likely be devastating.  To my relief, I was eerily calm and level-headed the entire day.   I didn’t want to be the person sobbing and completely breaking down during an already difficult time.  I wanted to be able to remember everything.

What’s A Planner To Do?

I like to plan.  I enjoy planning vacations, fashion shows for work, parties, etc.  I especially loved starting a baby registry and planning the layout for the nursery.  Now that I am thrown into a situation where the plans keep changing, I’m super frustrated.  Going with the flow was never my thing.  Alex has helped me to be a little more spontaneous but one can only change so much.   I want my calendar back, one in which I don’t have to write in pencil.

View from my hospital window.
Weather is also unpredictable, imagine worrying about your husband trying to make it to your delivery in a snowstorm. This was the view from my hospital window this weekend.